Tag: asks

the way that i’ve understood it is that because no homo was specifically directed against same gender attracted people, no hetero is taking something used against us and turning it on its head, whereas there are aro people who aren’t same gender attracted and thus it would be inappropriate for them to use it. i think most people who have talked about this dont have an issue with sga aro people using no romo

honestly as an sga aro this is such bullshit lmao
don’t hurt urself stretching so far :))))))

Hey cloud can you explain how you or someone could lack empathy I was always taught that empathy was like a thought process or a behavior choice you made actively, like actively thinking and putting yourself into someone’s shoes or considering how they feel and so I’m really confused about what you say when you lack empathy? Or that lacking empathy is like a neurotrophic instead of just someone actively not caring about others? Are there links you can give me?

there are 3 types of empathy. in no particular order, there is:

-cognitive empathy, or the ability to know what someone is thinking/feeling without needing them to explicitly spell it out for you

-emotional empathy, or the ability to automatically feel others’ emotions(or at least what you perceive them to be), otherwise known as emotional contagion

-affective empathy, or the ability to feel bad when someone is hurt, feel compelled to help, concerned, etc

people w/ low-to-none of any/all of these can still be good & moral people. the thought process/behavior choice is more of what i would call being understanding, respectful, compassionate etc, whereas empathy is an ability involving the ability to pick up on, share, or relate to others’ thoughts and feelings

while i’m on it, even people w/ high levels of all three types of empathy don’t necessarily feel empathy for everyone, ever. if your best friend loses someone important to them, it’s going to hit you a lot harder than if someone you’ve never heard of, in a place you’ve never been to, loses someone equally as important to them.

 it doesnt mean that you think that that stranger is upset over nothing or that you would mock their pain or in any way try to hurt them, just that the emotional drain of having the same concern for all 7 billion people on the planet as the 50-150 people that you’re close(ish) to would be impossible for any one person to handle. 

Why would you say whorephobia? Its a slur, and unless you are or were a sex workers, its not yours to reclaim. Wouldn’t it be better to say sex work shaming or something? Instead of calling sex workers oppression “whorephobia”? By saying “whorephobia” isn’t that calling whoever is experiencing sex work oppression a whore? Just wondering.

this is what i’m going off of

if you’re a sex worker(going by the wording on this ask it sounds like you’re not, but i could be wrong) and disagree w/ that post i’d be happy to apologize, but so far i haven’t heard from/of any SWs who feel it’s unacceptable for non-SWs to use it *in that specific context*

i.. can’t help but notice that you used it outside of that context, so i’m kind of unsure of if this is legit & you made a mistake, or if this is just an unusually civil attempt at baiting me

#w slur

Hi I’ve really adored your blog for a long time and now I’m wondering: How did you cope w your illness diagnosis? I’m 14 and I just started having serious heart troubles and I feel scared and alone 😰

I assume u mean my physical illness? since I have a shit ton of mental ones and you’re referring to a physical problem,but please tell me if I assumed wrong though!
that out of the way, I’m not sure that I could be considered coping. I went to the doctor and they ruled out e coli, some sort of parasite, and (I think) a certain type of cancer, though it was a while ago so I might not be remembering that right.
I was supposed to come in again later to get some less likely things checked out, but I maturely and responsibly completely blew it off. I’ve identified some trigger foods(lactose, altho dairy in general isn’t that good, greasy stuff, red meat), and since my involuntary #weight loss has slowed from 5 pounds a week, I’m pretending like if I don’t acknowledge that I’m getting worryingly close to underweight then it’ll magically go away.

in other words, please do not follow the Cloud Cisphobeofficial Physical Illness Coping Method©.

I *was* born with a fairly serious heart problem, but I had surgery to fix it when I was five, so I don’t remember enough to be the best one to talk about heart issues.
I hope all goes well for you, nonny, and I’m glad you like my blog 💜
for better advice, though, I suggest @itrhymeswithalayne, and if any of my followers know anything that could help nonny(or just want to offer emotional support), please send me an ask! I’ll tag them with #for heart trouble anon