Tag: asks

So, I’d like to ask for advice. I help take care of my neighbors 90 year old father. He can’t really walk and has dementia. I don’t mind helping at all, but the last time I saw him, he kept asking me to kiss him. I was weirded out, then he started to ask for kiss here, and pointed to his groin. I don’t want to say anything because my neighbor has a really short fuse and would yell and scream, but I also feel like I should say something. I feel guilty about being grossed out, but Idk what to do.

nonny no you have nothing to feel guilty about :c

that was really gross and inappropriate of him and you shouldn’t have to deal with that

do you have anyone who you can safely tell, like a friend or parent(assuming you still live with/near them)? having a buddy can really help, even if they’re there solely for moral support. I’d suggest then seeing your neighbor with your buddy in tow and explaining what happened(try having a written form of what you want to say, it can be easier to remember that way)

Emphasize your discomfort and tell him as directly as you can that you don’t want to be around his father anymore(or not alone, or not if he does it again, or whatever it is you decide)

If he starts to yell and scream, honestly, just walk out. you don’t deserve verbal abuse on top of sexual harassment

That’s my advice, at least, but I’ve never really been in your position, so I’d love it if my followers could pitch in with anything they think I may have missed or gotten flat-out wrong. I’ll tag it as #for neighbor anon

i didnt really read that post as op saying that ALL sex workers are exploited victims, just that the industry itself is exploitative. like they talked in general terms (they didnt say “all” or “some”) so maybe thats where the conflict came up, but u talked the same way in ur reply–by that logic, u are saying that no sex workers are ever victims

every industry under capitalism is exploitative.

the difference is that sex workers are also an oppressed group whose varied experiences with their work are constantly pushed under the umbrella of “helpless exploited victims who need to be rescued”, where “rescued” means being put out of work(good luck supporting yourself with no job) or being arrested(even people who know that cops are garbage will suddenly become capable of olympics-worthy mental gymnastics to justify this shit lmao)

I was under the mistaken impression that the op was a non SWer, and non SWers have no goddamned right to go spreading their own uninformed ideas about sex work around, to put it politely.