remember that time that spock said “this is about sex” but he couldn’t say sex so instead he said “biology” and kirk clearly knew what he meant but was awkwardly like “what kind of biology” and spock got this look on his face like ‘oh lordy i’m not dealing with this today’ and said “vulcan biology” and kirk can’t say the word sex either so he goes “u mean the biology of vulcans” and then they stood there in silence for ten seconds like a pair of fucking idiots
It’s interesting hearing ppl be anti-ace in pride month bc I think a lot of people think about ace spectrum as just, not being interested, and that it therefore affects your life to the same degree as not being interested in like, horror movies or a new AAA game might. That it’s a simple “opt-out” of any sort of sexual experience or identity altogether, rather than another set of complex interactions with a highly regimented, scripted societal concept of “normal,” e.g. hetero nuclear family with clear gender roles
You’d think for a community that focuses so much on the topic of representation in media, it would be a little more obvious that like…in almost every story, romantic/sexual love comes up as a theme or sideplot, and in many of them, it’s presented as a critically important key to happiness or success. As a culture, we recognize that anytime a character is in the same room as another character with the chance for there to be sexual tension, then that sexual tension p much automatically exists by default (assumed straight, but if the character’s label is revealed as gay,etc., follows accordingly). When the lead guy meets a woman with more than a few speaking lines and a meaningful interaction, they are a Romantic Sideplot, to the point where a lot of romantic writing is frankly lazy or forced-feeling simply bc it relies on ppl expecting it as default.
And the thing is, that sort of interaction follows you in real life in a lot of ways. It often feels like meeting people starts with the benchline of “am I or can I become sexually/romantically interested in you?” before moving down the lines of other ways to relate. And while I personally never really fell in the “I’m broken, I need fixed” mentality regarding my sexuality (demi-, to be clear), I have felt alienated or kept at a distance in the process of trying to disengage with this unspoken norm, to the point of it kind of becoming my default. As I’ve gotten older, it’s gotten more pressing, and it feels like many spaces for adults come with the caveat of being related to potential sexual/romantic availability
And it’s hard coming to terms with the fact that the world has designated the “most important relationship” as something that’s counter to you in some essential way. Like it’s a bit of a cruel realization to recognize that you’re probably always going to be playing second fiddle or be a step down in status to the people you view as most important to you because your relationship with them is not sexual or romantic. Being ace-spectrum is not opting-out of wanting meaningful relationships, but it sometimes comes with the resignation that you may have to accept that.
But that’s why representation and community matter. There’s a lot more discussion about things like queerplatonic relationships, about very meaningful but non-sexual ways of relating to others, and it’s awesome to see it come up in media, even if it’s just fanfiction. The notion that something like love, or more specifically, devotion, loyalty, commitment, accountability, compassion, or the act of cherishing/being cherished, can still exist for you outside of the realm of romantic or sexual situations, is something I think everyone deserves to see and understand. And I think that’s worth including in the discussion alongside other LGBTQ+ topics
“Like it’s a bit of a cruel realization to recognize that you’re probably always going to be playing second fiddle or be a step down in status to the people you view as most important to you because your relationship with them is not sexual or romantic.”
how to know if tumblr has been eating your asks: send yourself anywhere between 5-10 asks, ( anon or not ) but have each ask be nothing but an order in which you sent them.
i.e: the first ask says ‘1′, the second says ‘2′, etc etc.
i sent myself ten of these, both on anon and not. This was all i received back:
Tumblr is now eating asks along with notifications. We must be more interactive than ever if we want keep this form of entertainment we call the rpc. Go ahead and warn your friends or test this for yourselves.. This post is reblogable.
I just sent myself five of these. none of them came through.
I just did this myself last night and out of the ten ask I sent myself only one came through.
Please know if I’m not responding to you, your ask, or your messages, I am notwillingly ignoring you. I am however doing my best to try and stay in contact with everyone.
okay welp i just tried it and only the last one came through so if i ignore your ask:
1. it didn’t go through (message me or send it again)
2. i’m a lazy bitch and i’ll get to it eventually
Guys I’m never wilfully ignoring you! Please let me know if this seems like it’s happening
Nice, gasoline on this dumpster fire of a website, that’s what we needed
Hahaha sent five, nothing back, and this explains why I never get Zelbear’s asks…
If I’ve missed your ask, sorry!
Well, this explains a lot.
Boosting! This is current as of June 18, 2018.
Boosting just in case.
well, that could explain why my asks have dried up to nothing…..
apparently the best way to advertise a movie on tumblr is to assume that everyone has already heard of it and are being bigoted assholes for not talking about it more
“the white gays got all hyped up for love simon but i see no one talking about the kenyan lesbian movie!!!!” you cracked the code. you did it. the white gays are at it again, not talking about that one foreign indie movie that you can only see for a limited time at independent film festivals. this, as compared to how much they talked about that one multi-million dollar hollywood movie that was widely available in theaters, on itunes, and on dvd. disregarding the fact that people have absolutely been talking about the indie movie and publicly hoping they get to see it and that those posts have an astonishing number of notes for a fucking foreign indie film. has anyone ever told you how smart and insightful you are.
would be really cool if we ever at any point could lay the blame for the lack of diversity in hollywood on multimillionaire production execs instead of at the feet of gay people and/or people of colour who are at the mercy of those execs and have about as much power to influence hollywood to make what they want as your average house fly
wild idea but maybe holding the film industry responsible for how little it cares about the life experiences of anyone who’s not a straight white man instead of pretending they’re just dutifully handing out what the consumers are asking for and it’s just that consumers like, hate women or whatever, might be a refreshing change for once
Thor fears Steve. Not for his anger or skill, but his
sadness.
Thor is a god; his lifespan will last thousands – tens of
thousands – of Midgardian years. And yet he has chosen to tether himself to this
mortal realm, to these mortal friends.
Even if they survive their dangerous lives, they will age
and die. A few decades at most, and they will all be gone. And he will live the
rest of his lifetime with only their memory.
Thor fears Steve, because in him he sees the wounds such
loss leaves behind.
on one hand, becoming a blacksmith who makes swords and weapons and shit would be rad as fuck
on the other hand, i was born in modern times and would thus need to do some serious entrepreneurial bullshit on order to make any money from it, and that’s… not my thing.
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