speeedylesbian:

Here’s an unpopular opinion that shouldn’t be unpopular: Not wanting sex is a reasonable boundary to set for literally any reason. Be it your trauma, your mental health, your sexuality, or any other factor. Your partners should respect that and they should respect you. This shouldn’t be a debate.

i still remember when i stumbled on some thinkpiece on “tomboys don’t want to /be/ boys” and it was so interesting to me

when i was a little (unknowingly) transmasculine kid i was the only “tomboy” that i knew, up until long after i realized i was trans

and since no one actually bothered to define tomboy for me beyond “what you clearly are”, my definition wound up being something along the lines of “someone who is technically a girl but really more of a boy and who will eventually become an actual girl when ‘she’ grows up”, possibly with a hair of “will become a Real Boy when ‘she’ grows up” when I was very young

and obviously when i realized that i was trans i changed my gender label to something more accurate, but I had never really revised my definition of tomboy until I read that article

idk