Tag: asks

i’m not using it as a discussion tho?? literally all i’m doing is correcting you. this is not a discussion; i honestly don’t care about your opinion about what does or does not count as a lesbian because you are not a lesbian and therefore you have no say in it. what i AM doing here is correcting YOU and trying to stop YOU from offending the entire lesbian community by implying that the term “lesbian” means anything other than “a woman with an exclusive attraction to women.”

yeah and I’ve had other lesbians in my ask saying that mixed orientation women can be lesbians so I’d say it is a discussion or an argument or a debate or /something/ and will you please not make me host whatever the hell is going on here

your whiny harassment of a black lesbian dipshits, what have you done a lot of racist shit today that you’ve gotta sift through?

1) everyone’s on anon and no one has specified their race. One person used a phrase which is to my knowledge aave and I asked in the tags if she was black and she either didn’t see it or chose not to answer
2) I’ve barely initiated interaction with anyone today. pretty much all conversations have been initiated and continued by the other party. I can’t harass an anonymous person very well because I don’t know who they are, and its not like I can send them asks
3) please specify what post you’re even talking about because nothing about this rings a bell. I don’t even know if I’ve /talked/ to any black lesbians today

look if ur interested in non-women in anyway, you ain’t a lesbian. you can be bi or pan or whatever, but not a lesbian. lesbian is the EXCLUSIVE attraction to women. homoromantic homosexual, aromantic homosexual, & homoromantic asexual women are the only women who can call themselves a lesbian. “biromantic homosexual” or “homoromantic bisexual” is just a bi person that is exclusively into the same gender when it comes to sexual or romantic, but r still attracted to another gender in another way.

okay here’s an idea

don’t use my blog as a platform for this discussion

if you want to make an anonymous blog to discuss this on i’ll totally promo it but like

if i post something offensive without commentary then i’m responsible for it bc i’m basically cosigning it but if i post something offensive with commentary i run a very high risk of speaking over lesbians like honestly i am not obligated to hold that kind of responsibility over a discussion that does not involve me okay 

what the fuck is a bi lesbian and what the fuck ESPECIALLY is a lesbian who is primarily attracted to men or other non-women? words mean things, oh my god

here we go again

  • who said anything about primary attraction to men/other non-women what
  • bi lesbian = a biromantic homosexual or homoromantic bisexual woman
  • if you’re planning to start being a transmisogynist ableist like the last anon please let me know now bc i’m not gonna bother spending energy explaining anything if it means another multi-hour harassment campaign

I knew that’d be read wrong, and your reasoning is exactly why. when together, yes, I’ve also only heard it in that way. that’s why I tried to clarify. I do not mean it as “FINE, I’m sorry ok, geez” I mean as “fine, (to staying out of lesbian conversations) and I’m sorry”. and did you just assume I’m neurotypical?

..you called me an ableist slur and refused to acknowledge it for at least an hour. it’s hardly an unreasonable leap

though if you’re neurodivergent and not just trying to use this as a “gotcha” then i apologize for assuming

(and just in case, as I realize you may misread/misunderstand that, my fine is to your first sentence, not the rest. I’m not begrudgingly apologizing like a 5 year old caught pulling someone’s hair, I just realize after sending that using “fine” in text/an ask comes off very different from how it is used in speech, but whether or not you believe me is out of my hands)

alright.

apology accepted, tho far from forgiven

no, I don’t want to harass anyone. I don’t enjoy this. I don’t go looking for non-lesbians to harass. regardless of what I am, I am calling you out for defining lesbianism as a non-lesbian and I could be the worst bigot ever to exist but that doesn’t negate that I’m right in that respect. you have no place defining lesbianism as a non-lesbian, especially TO a lesbian. that’s all I care about. stay out of the conversation, stop defining lesbianism for us and talking over lesbians, and I’m good.

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